The dictionary defines infidelity as unfaithfulness to a sexual partner. Lets go over what is and isnt cheating:

1. Kissing another guy/girl

YES: Unless the kiss is just a quick peck on the cheek or lips.

2. Hugging another guy/girl

NO: Unless the hug is long and lingering and youre staring into each others eyes.

3. Making out with another guy/girl

YES: Its safe to say, if youre breathing speeds up, youre probably cheating.

4. Telling another guy/girl you love them.

YES: Unless its a friendly I love you- the kind people usually say at the end of a phone conversation.

5. Flirting with another guy/girl

NO: This can certainly be annoying if your partner is doing it, but it cant be considered cheating.

6. Chatting on the internet with a stranger

YES: Many relationships are breaking up these days because of people spending time online for hours with someone they havent even met. If you have that much time to spare, you should be spending it with your real, live partner.

I think the best way to decide whether something youre about to do or have already done would be considered cheating is to ask yourself this: Would I behave in this way if my partner were standing next to me and could observe everything that happened? You have your answer.

Now, if you just found out youve been cheated on, what should you do? Finding out someone you trusted and believed in has lied can be devastating. Statistics show that women are more likely to forgive an indiscretion than men. Thats unfortunate, because if someone cheats once, chances are, theyll do it again.

Id like to look at infidelity in a whole new light. I actually think if youve found out your partner has been unfaithful, this is actually a good thing. Why? Because now you know who youre dealing with. My take on relationships is this: Weve all cheated and weve all been cheated on. At some point, after several relationships that dont work out, you realize how difficult it is to find someone you really click with. Once you understand this, your outlook on relationships is: When I finally find someone that I think is the one and they feel the same, Im not going to do anything to mess that up. Its not worth losing someone special, for a night of pleasure with someone else. This is the attitude of someone thats ready for a commitment. If you find out your partner has cheated, then, in most cases, thats not his/her attitude, because he/she was willing to risk losing you.

This is why you should look at infidelity as a good thing. You now know you and your partner are not on the same page. Instead of wasting months, maybe years, with someone that isnt right for you, youre free to look for someone that is right! Finding out about an infidelity doesnt have to be the end of the world. It can actually be the beginning of a whole new life.