Christina Aguilera has gone back to basics, stopped dating toxic guys and married a down-to-earth music executive. Christina is becoming more secure in her womanhood. Her new elegant look and soul CD Back to Basics are evidence of her personal evolution and transformation.

Christina's crusade to help victims of domestic violence is dear to her heart. She herself grew up in an unstable environment as there was abuse in her household. Christina works a lot with a domestic violence and child-abuse center in Pittsburgh. She is passionate about rebuilding battered women's self-esteem and providing for their necessities.

Christina unveiled herself a bit telling Seventeen magazine: "Thank God for my first record: I was able to get my foot in the door with a [CD] that wasn't so much me but has given me the freedom to do what I want to now."

Married to a man who embraces her individuality, Christina is undoubtedly growing increasingly comfortable in her own skin. Christina proudly says of her husband Jordan, "He's my best friend and he's my backbone and number one supporter. ...He's a very real, down-to-earth person. When he walks into a room, his energy is so calm and peaceful, like you wouldn't even know he was there. He's a great balance for me." (Seventeen, September 2006, p. 179)

Not only is Christina more relaxed, but her new song "Save Me From Myself" shows that she is also becoming increasingly self-aware. Christina candidly admitted, "I think a lot of us can act as our own worst enemies at times, digging ruts for ourselves and making things out to be worse than they really are."

We all experience bad feelings at times, during which if we isolate ourselves can feel as if we're being sucked into a black hole. It is important to have loved ones and solid people to whom we can turn. Thankfully Christina has found the light in her hubby Jordan.

When I was going through a dark time following my divorce a couple years ago (which resulted from my ex-wife cheating on me), I happened to see an article about Christina on a Rolling Stone magazine. It talked about her brutal break-up with her first boyfriend who proved to be quite the player. Some friends helped Christina through it by taking her into the kitchen of a restaurant where they told her to break some champagne glasses and release her anger. As Christina broke the champagne glasses she felt somewhat of an emotional breakthrough. It was this article that inspired my new book "Breakthrough for a Broken Heart."

Christina's "Fighter" song was a personal favorite of mine as I bounced back from my personal setback. Today like Christina I have stepped back into the light and found the love of my life. Whereas Christina used music throughout her life to escape the abuse, I have found writing to be therapeutic and healing. Settled in security is a wonderful place to be emotionally and relationally.